Pencarian teman-teman lama

Setelah lama melakukan proses pencarian teman-teman lama, akhirnya ada beberapa yang bisa 'nyangkut'. Walaupun cuma sedikit, tapi akhirnya aku berhasil juga kontak teman-teman dari mulai SD di Jakarta, SD di Semarang, SMP, SMA n temen kuliah di UGM.

Yang paling susah, nyari temen SD. Karena di situs seperti friendster atau myface gitu, jarang yang mencantumkan history SD nya. Paling yang mereka input cuma High school and College nya aja. Untung waktu SD aku hobi ngafalin nama lengkap teman-teman sekelas (plus nama Bapaknya.. dulu musim tuh!). Jadi sedikit banyak, memoriku itu ikut membantu misi pencarian ini. Aku cari di Google by their full name. Bayangin aja kalo kita googling pake nama depan 'thok', wih search resultnya buanyaaak banget. Malah bingung.

Banyak yang bisa dicari by googling, tapi cuma sedikit (temen SD cuma 2) yang bisa dikontak. Karena kebanyakan hasil googling cuma artikel berita yang didalamnya tercantum nama mereka. No email, no website. Hopeless deh.

Temen SD dapet 2, temen SMP Semarang dapet 2, temen SMA dapet 1, temen kuliah dapet 1. Wuaa, lucu liat foto2nya. Ada yang tadinya cungkring jadi nduth, yg tadinya embrot jadi kurus. Asa juga yang tetep gitu2 aja nggak ada perubahan. Yang temen SD berarti udah kira2 seperempat abad nggak ketemu loh. Seru! Reuni seru juga kali ya.

Masih ada yang aku kepengen banget ketemu nih, belum tercapai. Sahabatku di SMP. Aku udah googling namanya yang 5 kata itu juga nggak berhasil. Mudah2an bisa ketemu.

Punya banyak teman itu seneng. Apalagi kalau punya kenangan yang indah sama mereka. Aku jadi kepingin tau, kenangan/kesan mereka tentang aku dulu gimana ya? Teman yang baik n menyenangkan apa teman yang usil, bandel n nyebelin? Kayanya yang pertama deh..

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Internetku pake FastNet dari First Media

Kira-kira sebulan yang lalu aku diajak temen nyari job di First Media. Alhamdulillah 2 hari yang lalu aku dikabarin kalo aku diterima untuk berpartisipasi di salah satu produksi mereka. Jobnya baru akan mulai pertengahan Juli besok, tapi sign kontraknya udah dilaksanakan kemarin.

First Media ini dulunya namanya Kabel Vision, salah satu penyedia jasa Pay TV/TV kabel di Indonesia. Mereka juga menyediakan broadband internet service, FastNet namanya.

Dulu aku kira kalau mau langganan internet nya, kita harus langganan home cablenya juga. Waktu ikut test disana sebulan yang lalu, aku baca-baca brosurnya n setelah sampe rumah kulanjutin browsing ke websitenya. Ternyata kita nggak harus subscribe dua-duanya kok. Kita boleh langganan home cablenya aja, atau FastNet nya aja. Pastinya kalo kita mau langganan dua-duanya, mereka akan kasih harga paket, lebih murah.

FastNet ini paket produknya ada 5. FasNet 384 sampai FastNet 3000.
Yang paling rendah, FastNet 384, speednya up to 384 kbps. Harganya 99 ribu per bulan plus tax. Jadi per bulannya sekitar 109 ribulah. Yang 512, per bulannya 195 ribu plus tax.

Aku mikir, kemarin2 kalo diitung2 aku bisa keluar duit buat main internet gede banget jumlahnya. Kalo 109 ribu per bulan bisa berinternet sepuasnya oke banget tu ya..

Tapi.. Untuk paket 1 & 2, yang 384 n 512, kita harus beli kabel modemnya dari mereka. Harganya 495 ribu. Untuk paket yang 768 sampe 3000, kabel modem gratis dari mereka. Secara, bulanannya juga udah mahal kan.

Akhirnya aku ambil tu yang paket 384. Speednya cukup sih kalo cuma buat browsing2 n kadang2 download something dari internet. Mungkin ntar kalo kegiatan berinternetku memerlukan speed yang lebih tinggi lagi, aku akan upgrade.

Oya, aku ambil cuma FastNet nya aja, karena di rumah aku udah pasang Indovision. CS nya nawarin sih utk ganti First Media, bisa dapet harga paket 2 in 1. Tapi nggak usah ah, aku males ngurusin ke Indovision nya kalo mau unsubscribe.

Jadi udah sebulan ini, internetku all night long n all day long bisa online terus.. Unlimited gitu loh.. Senangnyaaa..

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Rencana punya bisnis di Jogja

Kalo di awal2 blog aku suka posting tentang pengalaman n keinginankuberbisnis di Jogja, kayanya sebentar lagi niatku itu bakalan terlaksana deh. Insya Allah.

Udah ada pandangan mengenai lokasi, nggak terlalu jauh jaraknya dari rumahku di Jogja. Di Jl. Monjali. Tempatnya nggak terlalu besar, tapi lumayanlah. Nanti yang ngelola adikku sama temennya. Biar dia belajar bisnis, belajar kalo cari duit itu susah.. Nanti mamahku kan juga ikut sibuk, biar mamah ada kegiatan juga.. Wah, belum2 udah ngebayangin pasti bakal seru kalo punya usaha di situ..

Rencananya mau jualan baju2 sama accessories dan printil2nya. Buat cewek and cowok. Temennya adikku kan orangnya modis, jadi ngerti lah model2 baju yg lagi happening buat cewek2 di Jogja.. Kalo adikku, bagian baju cowoknya. Tau banget deh aku seleranya, bagus n sedikit aneh gitu. Namanya juga anak muda..

Emang udah banyak sih butik kecil2 bertebaran di Jogja. Tapi makin banyak makin bagus kan, bersaing sehat. Kalo kita nggak nyoba mana kita tau bakal berhasil apa nggak..

Doain ya, bisa tercapai n lancar semuanya.. Amin..

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Susah tidur nih..

Udah kira-kira 2 bulan ini aku nggak pernah bisa tidur di bawah jam 3 pagi. Seringnya, ngantuk mulai dateng menjelang adzan Subuh. Tapi susahnya, kalo udah kena air wudhu mau sholat Subuh, malah jadi seger lagi. Udah berusaha dimerem2in malah pusing kepala. Kalo siang nggak ada kerjaan sih masih bisa dipaksain tuh jam 2-3 siang tidur. Tapi kalo ada kerjaan yang mengharuskan berangkat pagi n pulang malem, ya berarti seharian nggak tidur. Yang namanya insomnia tuh kaya gini apa bukan ya..?

Beda banget ya sama waktu muda dulu (belum kepala 3), perasaan dulu gampang banget tidur. Apalagi kalo udah baca buku sambil tiduran (jangan ditiru ya, tidak baik buat mata!), paling baru dapet beberapa halaman udah merem dengan lelapnya. Sekarang, sampe bukunya ampir tamat juga masih seger2 aja mata.

Tapi untungnya, aku nggak pernah yang karena nggak tidur semaleman trus di tempat kerjaan ngantuk sampe ketiduran. Atau pas nyetir ngantuk, Alhamdulillah nggak pernah tuh. Mudah2an jangan sampe kejadian begitu ya.

Semoga nggak berlarut2 nih kebiasaan melek malem kaya gini. Nggak bagus buat kesehatan, nggak bagus buat muka, nggak bagus buat pekerjaan aku. Muka kurang tidur kan keliatan banget, kadang bawah mata harus dikasih concealer tebel buat ngilangin lingkar hitamnya. Dan bahayanya lagi, kalo malem nggak bisa tidur tapi nggak ada kerjaan, ngemilku jadi banyak. Tukang mie dogdog yang lewat tiap jam 11 malem sekarang udah jadi langgananku tuh. Hehe, makan mie dogdog sih bukan termasuk ngemil ya, tapi makan berat. Makanya daripada nggak ada kerjaan, main komputer aja, ngisi blog. Kan susah kalo ma'em di depan komputer.

Ya udah deh, udah ampir jam 4 pagi. Maksain tidur dulu ah..

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Happy Birthday Mah..

Hari ini my mommy ulang tahun.. Tadi aku udah telpon mamah.. Happy birthday ya mah. Semoga panjang umur, tetep sehat and happy terus..

Pengen deh pulang ke Jogja.. Mamah bikin nasi kuning yang hmmmm... pasti sedap banget. Tapi sekarang belum bisa, mungkin baru minggu depan aku kesana.

Kalo udah pulang ke Jogja, wah yang namanya diet terlupakan deh. Bukan karena banyak jajan di restoran atau lesehan yang banyak bertebaran di Jogja, tapi karena kalo aku kesana, mamah pasti masakin segala macem masakan yang enak2 yang aku seneng..

Pernah tuh, aku kesana seminggu, pulang ke Jakarta berat badanku udah naik 3 kilo. Dahsyat banget naiknya ya.. Yang pasti karena hati juga pasti lebih adem ayem kalo deket sama orang tua..

Ya Allah, berikanlah kepada mamahku, kesehatan dan umur panjang, serta kebahagiaan dalam menjalani hari tuanya.. Dan berikanlah kepadaku, kesempatan dan kemampuan untuk membahagiakan mamahku.. Tambahkanlah kemuliaan untuk mamahku Ya Allah.. Amin..

Duuh.. kok aku jadi nangis nih.. I miss you mom.. Happy birthday..

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Blogspot dot comku jadi dot com..

Hari ini aku beli domain untuk blogku yang myjourneyoflearning.blogspot.com jadi mylearningdays.com. Emang tadinya aku maunya web addressku mylearningdays tapi karena unavailable di blogspot, jadi milih address yang kepanjangan itu. Sekarang lagi nunggu nih. Katanya sih nggak lama.

Kalo nanti berhasil n nggak bikin ribet, yang ini juga mau aku custom domainnya juga. Sengaja yang buat contoh soal blogku yang itu karena blog itu lebih baru. Belum banyak aku masukin macem2. Jadi kalo emang harus bubar ya gakpapa. Hehe, maklum aku buta soal bahasa2 program, kalo udah soal edit HTML yang ribet2 nyerah deh. Kalo yang standard2 aja masih oke.

Tadi jadi pengen ngubah ke dot com gara2 liat website si Om. Banyak tutorial soal ngeblog yang bisa aku ngerti disana. Thanks ya Om.

Aku juga lagi belajar bikin "read more.." Belum dicoba berhasil apa nggak. Ntar aku kasih reportnya kalo oke yah..

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Ramalan lewat garis tangan..?

Beberapa hari yang lalu temenku nanya.. "Yas, tau tempat buat ngerubah garis tangan nggak?.. "Waduh, nggak tau deh.. Pernah baca sih di majalah, tapi nggak aku perhatiin.."

Rupanya temenku itu lagi menghubung2kan ketidakeberuntungannya di tempat dia kerja dengan nasibnya, yang menurut dia karena 'garis karir' di tangannya punya bentuk tertentu. Lebih jauh lagi, dia bilang "Garis tanganku persis sama mamahku, garis umurnya pendek.. Aku nggak mau kaya mamahku.." Almarhumah mamahnya emang meninggal waktu masih muda, umur 40an..

"Ah, ngapain sih percaya kaya gitu2.. Ada2 aja.. Mendingan kaya aku, garis apa aja yang ada di tangan, aku nggak tau namanya n nggak tau artinya.. Jadi nggak worry berlebihan kaya kamu.."

Tapi temenku tetep kekeuh mau berusaha merubah nasib dengan merubah garis tangannya.. Nggak tau deh trus dia usaha nanya ke siapa lagi.. Dia nggak pernah ngomongin masalah itu lagi karena aku nggak setuju..

Tapi aku jadi mikir juga, apa iya dengan merubah garis tangan, kita bisa merubah nasib, apalagi merubah umur..?

Aku jadi liat2 garis tanganku sendiri.. Mana sih yang namanya garis karir.. Mana sih yang namanya garis umur..?

Karena penasaran, aku hari ini searching site2 tentang garis tangan.. Dapet nih, ada beberapa site diantaranya primbon.com, sama di my.opera.com.. Ada yang namanya garis anak, garis perkawinan, garis kesehatan deelel deh.. Aku cocok2in sama tanganku sendiri.. Tapi malah bingung.. Yang di gambarnya kok beda banget sama garis tanganku.. Malah pusing..

Cukup tau aja kalo garis yang ini namanya ini, yang itu namanya itu.. Kalo buat ngeramal, nggak deh.. Aku tetep nggak percaya.. (Yang percaya silahkan lho, nggak ada yang larang).. Apalagi trus bisa diubah n berpengaruh sama perubahan nasib.. Masa iya, kalo garis karir kita diubah jadi bagus, pasti akan bagus walaupun kita kerjanya seenaknya.. Masalah umur apalagi, itu 1000% di tangan Allah.. Bisa aja, pulang dari ngerubah garis umur biar umurnya panjang, eh di perjalanan tabrakan n mati.. (Audzubillah mindzalik)..

Jadi orang yang baik hati aja deh.. Di sayang Allah, disayang temen, disayang sahabat, disayang pacar, disayang suami.. (yang 2 terakhir pilih salah satu aja ya)..

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Tolong..!! Aku keracunan...!!

Hari ini kayanya hari apesku.. Siang aku niat mau jalan2 sama temen2ku.. Udah mandi, udah cantik, udah wangi.. Lagi start mobil, eh, temenku telpon, "Jangan siang deh, sorean aja ya.. Soalnya mendadak ada tamu dateng.. Bener deh pasti jadi, tapi jam 5an ya.."

Yah, piye to.. Copot sepatu, ganti baju lagi deh.. Rencana mau makan di luar siang ini, nggak jadi.. Perut udah kruyuk2, makan di rumah aja deh kalo gitu..

Di meja makan ada telor dadar kesukaanku, sayur asem n ada oseng2 ikan pake cabe ijo.. Hmm, sedap.. Ikan yang dioseng2 itu ikan yang biasa dijual di keranjang2 kecil itu loh, namanya ikan apa sih? Cuek, apa kuek, atau apa namanya nggak jelas.. Biasanya aku cuma nyebut ikan keranjang.. Ini juga salah satu kedoyananku.. Lidahku emang pribumi banget, doyannya ya kaya gitu2 aja.. Yang namanya sosis, keju, lasagna, fetuccini nggak pernah bisa ketelen.. Terutama keju n sosis, boro2 ketelen, deket2 aja nggak tahan aromanya.. Emang lidah ndeso nggak bisa diapa2in lagi.. Sengsara kalo lagi di Eropa..

Abis maem, ngerokok n main komputer.. Nggak lama, kira2 baru 10 menit setelah makan, di depan komputer nih, aku ngerasa nggak enak banget badanku.. Kayanya darah dari kaki naik semua ke kepala, trus kepala pusing, tapi nggak banget2 pusingnya.. Yang bikin ngeri, jantungku dagdigdugnya keras n cepet banget.. Aku langsung pindah dari depan komputer , tiduran di sofa.. Lagi mikir2, what's wrong with my body.. Mukaku rasanya panas banget, pas aku pegang2 mukaku, baru keliatan tanganku muerraaah... banget.. Oh my God! Aku langsung ngaca di wastafel.. Hiiiiiii... mukaku juga merah banget.. Tapi nggak bengkak2 loh, cuma merah aja, jadi masih keliatan cantik, hehe.. Apalagi kan tadi udah dandan mau pergi.. :>

Aku baru sekali ini ngalamin kaya gitu.. Aku langsung mikir ini pasti gara2 makanan.. Kalo karena telor dadar gak mungkin, telor pasti fresh.. Sayur asem juga gak mungkin.. Pasti ikan oseng2 itu.. Aduuuh, trus gimana dong, jantungku masih dagdigdug banget.. Nggak tau boleh apa nggak, aku muntahin tuh semua yang udah aku makan tadi.. Trus minum air putih banyaaaaak banget, biar pipis2 terus..

Aku nggak berani banyak gerak2, tiduran aja di sofa, sambil bawa kaca.. Ada kali aku 18 kali ngaca, ngeliat mukaku udah normal belum warnanya.. Masih merah, tangan juga masih merah, darah masih berasa mendidih, pusingnya udah berkurang tapi jantung masih dagdigdug.. Takuuuut.. Harusnya ke dokter ya, tapi takut kalo nyetir di jalan kenapa2.. Anak kost juga nggak ada yang dimintain tolong anterin ke dokter, pada ngantor semua.. Akhirnya aku suruh pembantuku ke apotik, beli obat keracunan, aku suruh jelasin ke orang apotiknya, aku biasa makan ikan keranjang kaya gitu n gak masalah, n aku gak alergi sama ikan.. Terserah deh mau dikasih obat apa..

Pembantuku perginya cepet banget, lari kali dia ke apotiknya, kasian liat aku berubah jadi kepiting rebus.. Sama orang apotiknya aku dikasih obat Dextamin, katanya itu obat alergi.. Lhah gimana sih, udah dibilang aku nggak alergi ikan, ini keracunan.. Whatever lah, aku minum aja tuh obat.. Bismillahirrohmanirrohiim..

Obatnya ada obat tidurnya kali ya, aku ketiduran di sofa.. Kebangun gara2 temenku telpon.. "Yuk.. Aku udah OTW nih.." Ya nggak mungkinlah aku berani jalan2, situasi tidak kondusif.. Batal deh acara ngafenya.. Walaupun pas sambil nelpon itu aku ngaca, n mukaku udah kinclong lagi, n segala symptom yang tadi aku rasain udah nggak ada.. Aku udah sembuh! Tapi tetep, appointment cancelled!

Alhamdulillah.. Itu obat mantap juga ya.. Aku pikir itu obat mahal, tapi pas liat bonnya, murah banget, nggak sampe 10 ribu 1 strip.. Berarti aku alergi ya? Masa sih? Yang jelas aku nggak akan mau lagi makan ikan keranjang itu.. Deleted from my menu..

Jadi, ati2 deh makan segala yang diawetkan begitu.. Aku cerita ke temenku yang dokter, dia bilang mungkin itu emang ikannya diawetkan pake zat yang berbahaya, atau cara nangkep ikannya itu yang pake zat yang berbahaya.. Berarti, ikan segar juga nggak aman dong.. Aku udah nggak makan daging sapi n ayam karena banyak penyakit.. Sekarang ikan juga bikin kapok.. Trus aku harus jadi vegetarian? Iya kali ya...

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Jenuh? Nyanyi aja..

Kadangkala kita merasa jenuh yang nggak tau sebabnya kenapa. Aku kemarin ngerasain hal kaya gitu. Padahal kegiatan sehari-hari juga nggak monoton2 amat. Nggak ada paksaan harus berangkat dan pulang jam sekian-sekian. Bebas ngelakuin apa aja. Tapi tetep aja rasanya jenuh, sebel, pengen marah aja.

Di rumah, aku punya banyak vcd karaoke.. Dulu biasanya kalo aku ngalamin perasaan kaya gini, aku nyanyi, teriak sepuas-puasnya di rumah. Tapi sekarang harus rada mikir, soalnya, sejak aku melakukan penghematan energi dengan mengurangi pemakaian AC di rumah, ventilasi udara yang dulu biasanya aku tutup pake fiber sekarang aku buka. Hasilnya emang rumah silir semilir banyak angin masuk, cukup adem tanpa pake AC di ruang tamu n ruang keluarga. Tapi akibat lainnya, suara dari dalam rumah pasti bakalan jelas banget kedengeran dari luar, apalagi kalo mau berkaraoke yang volumenya harus pol. Mana enak karaokean kalo musik n suara kita harus pelan2?

Kalo penghuni rumah, santai aja, anak2 kostku nggak bakalan "kebribenan" (keberisikan) sama suara ibu kostnya yang melengking2 karena kalo siang kan mereka semua ngantor.

Akhirnya, hari Minggu kemarin aku ngajak 3 orang anak kostku yang 'terlihat' seneng nyanyi ke karaoke di Kelapa Gading.

Udah deh, 4 orang stress nyanyi2 nggak karuan di sana. Kita masuk jam 12, keluar2 udah jam 6 sore. Puasnyaaa..
Hari Minggu ternyata tetep happy hour di sana. Jadi kocek yang kita keluarin nggak banyak2 amat, apalagi kan saweran.

Ternyata emang, setiap kejenuhan harus dilampiaskan. Setelah itu, ya udah happy lagi aku, semangat lagi. Padahal pelampiasannya cuma nyanyi ya..

Dulu, biasanya aku suka ke Dufan juga kalo lagi rada2 stress. Naik macem2 wahana yang membangkitkan adrenalin. Sekarang, agak ragu2, aku masih kuat nggak ya naik kaya gituan. Kalo cuma ngikutin kemauan sih ayo aja. Tapi aku pertimbangkan jantung juga nih. Faktor U berbicara.. Ih, kaya yang udah tuwir banget sih ngomongnya..

Bulan depan deh, aku mau ngajak anak2 kostku ke Dufan..

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"If you can't be happy where you are, maybe you need to move..!"

Every time I give a talk about life transition, someone invariably calls to say, "I believe happiness is inside us. If you can't be happy here, you can't be happy anywhere."

I have to resist the temptation to shout, "Aaargh!"

We all know people who never seem to be happy. They move from one town to another. Maybe they keep changing jobs. It's tempting to say something like, "People your age always have trouble when they move to a new community." Or, "Very few people enjoy their jobs -- get used to it!"

Both of those statements are true. However, some people really will be happier in New York City than in a small town in Iowa, and vice versa. Some people have managed to choose a career that clashes with their personalities, talents and needs. When they move, they're happier almost immediately.

But don't be too quick to tell yourself (or your friend), "So, move already! Stop complaining!"
If you've had several unhappy moves, identify the underlying cause. You may simply be a restless person who needs a career and lifestyle that offers variety. You may be an outgoing, lively person, in a career or town that rewards quiet, reserved communication styles. You may be a morning person in a world that demands staying awake past midnight and sleeping till noon.
At the first sign of discontent, begin some reality-testing. Ask at least six people (the Goodwin Rule of Six) how they feel. Word your questions carefully: "I love it here. What do you think?" Newcomers can find themselves labeled M for "malcontent," even when they ask the most innocent questions.

You may need only a quick fix. I've seen people blossom when they transfer to a new department or move six blocks away. But you may have identified a deeper discontent.

Once you've identified the source, find a friend you trust. Tell that friend, "If I tell you I'm tempted to move again, remind me why I was miserable here."

Most friends -- along with many professional advisors -- are reluctant to become wet blankets who smother your dreams. Yet if you're trying to avoid repeating a mistake, a large bucket of ice water may save you from drowning when you dive into your next pond.

By: Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D., author of Making the Big Move,offers straightforward career and business consultingto midlife professionals.

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Exercises for Self Growth

As Psychic/Medium I get people coming to me all the time who do not know how to step forward and nurture their spirit the white cup exercise is a simple way to do just that. I also provide tips for those caught in what I term the bumper car effect.

The white cup (mug etc).

Some times we are like an empty cup. We struggle to have a sense of self and say out loud things like " why does my life feel empty" or why can't I make friends". Our soul or our inner world is a cup we fill up with love. Some people have so much it overflows you will know them by the joy you feel in their presence. Some people have so little love their cup is almost dry you will know them by the gray cloud of gloom that follows where-ever they go. What happens when the cup is empty? Often we look to others to fill it and end up in dysfunctional relationship always wanting something from the other person or conversely blaming them for the way we feel. The white cup exercise is about learning to fill your own cup so it overflows with joy and happiness.

1. Purchase a white coffee mug and a black permanent marker
2. Every day think of something you can do for yourself. For example take a long bath or go to the movies or start a class or join a group or simply walk on the beach or go for coffee with a friend or meditate
3. Every time you do something draw a line on the mug making your way up to the top. You are basically watching your cup fill up and very soon it will be overflowing.

DON'T STOP when you reach the top rather use the mug as a reminder to nurture your self physically emotionally and spiritually.

The Bumper car effect.

When you step into a bumper car at the fair it feels like no matter which way you turn someone or something hits you when you least expect it. The problem with the bumper cars is you never get time to find your balance or find some space to figure out the best way to go. Here are a few ideas about what you can do when you start to feel this way:

1. Let go of any need to 'fix' things. Let go of any resentment, anger, guilt or shame that has built up.
2. Let go of any expectations in regards to outcomes and other peoples behavior
3. Take a moment or a day to breath ... .put aside issues for awhile focus on things which bring you back into balance.
4. Ask for help. Sometimes we cling to things so tightly so intent on fixing them for ourselves we don't allow anyone to help carry the load so we can gain our balance.

Things to remember:

Everyone no matter what their life circumstance, race, religion or sexual preference was born a Master.

By: Robin J

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A Powerful New Way to Use "Why" Questions

To start making dramatic changes in your life, transformthe way you use questions that begin with "why." IBM Founder Thomas Watson, Sr. is quoted as saying "the ability to ask the right question is more than half thebattle of finding the answer." "Why" questions are uniquelypowerful in that they already contain an answer themselves.

Implicit in every "why" question is a statement of fact.For example, consider the question "why is the sky blue?"You agree the sky is blue. You're merely seeking theexplanation of what makes it so. As much as you try, you'llnever change the color of the sky. Hidden in each "why"question is an affirmative statement.

If not used effectively, "why" questions keep you stuck. Iused to have trouble getting out of bed in the morning. I'd ask myself "why do I stay in bed when it's time to getup?" Each time I asked, I always returned to the *fact*that I didn't get out of bed when it was time. My "why"question affirmed that I stayed in bed when it was time toget up, and it kept me stuck in that pattern.

Begin looking at the "why" questions you ask yourself. If you're chronically late for appointments, maybe you ask: "why am I always late?"

If you experience financial lack, maybe you ask:"why am I always broke?"

If you seem to lack enough time, perhaps you ask:"why is there never enough time in my day?"

If you don't feel so confident, maybe you ask:"why am I such a loser?"

Wherever you experience undesired results, look at the "why" questions you may be asking yourself in that area.

Transform your "why" questions into "how can I" questions. Instead of asking "why am I always late?"Try "how can I be on time for all my appointments?"

Instead of asking "why am I always broke?"Try "how can I earn/save/have more money?"

Instead of asking "why do I oversleep?"Try "how can I get out of bed on time each day?"

Instead of asking "why am I not getting visitors to mywebsite?"Try "how can I get more visitors to my website?"

Begin using afformations. Notice I did not sayaffirmations. An afformation, according to author Noah St.John, is "an empowering question to which the human brainmust try to find an answer." In his excellent book "LearnHow and Why to Give Yourself Permission to Succeed," Noahdevotes several pages to afformations. Pick up a copy ofthe book or visit his website at
Afformations are "why" questions which affirm something you desire.

Instead of asking "why am I always late?"Try "why am I on time for all my appointments?"

Instead of asking "why am I always broke?"Try "why do I experience financial abundance?"

Instead of asking "why am I lonely?"Try "why am I surrounded with friends who care for me?"

Instead of asking "why is my business unsuccessful?"Try "why is my business vibrant, growing and prosperous?"

By asking positive "why" questions, you convince your brain that what you desire is already so. If it exists inyour mind, it's bound to become an outer reality.

Combine afformations with journaling. Begin keeping ajournal each day and ask yourself only positive "why"questions. Not only will you be getting your thoughts outon paper, but you'll also be affirming - in your own mind -your desired reality.

Psychologist William James states "the greatest discoveryof my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." Transform theway you use "why" questions, and you'll transform yourattitude and your life. It's your life. Make it great!

By: Michael Pollock

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"Wake Up and Create Something!"

It's time for the "mainstream" to WAKE UP. The alarm clock is ringing, they keep hitting snooze, and in the meantime, the life they could be living is passing them by.

Day after day, millions of people go through their lives wishing and hoping and dreaming that things could be better, with absolutely no knowledge that it is they themselves that perpetuate their own dissatisfaction.

It is not the "gifted few" who create their realities. It's not just for those in the metaphysical community. It is all of us. Every single one. However, there are a few who have awakened to this knowledge, and make creating their reality a daily event...manifesting whatever it is they want in their life with seemingly no effort!

Meanwhile the rest of the world looks on in wonder and disbelief. They assume that these "fortunate few" are among the cosmically lucky.

To be honest, the whole thing generates some anger in me. The problem is that we are "dumbed down" by society throughout our whole lives under the pretense that we are actually being intellectualized. The "scholarly" tell us that metaphysical topics like reality creation are pure fantasy. Science insists on measurable evidence of everything before it will acknowledge such claims as fact.

However, it's really not that difficult to comprehend. Even the most skeptical people should be able to grasp a few simple concepts like:

• Everything in the Universe is composed of Energy, including you and me. Even our thoughts are Energy.
• Through Energy, everything in the Universe is connected.
• The Universe creates without effort, and in abundance. Just look around you. Trees, rocks, air, planets, etc. all were created without stress, effort, or over-analyzation. The Force you choose to believe initiated the creative process doesn't matter. They are all there and were created effortlessly.
• You are a part of the Universe and through the power of thought, have the same creative power that manifests everything you see. The only thing that limits your potential is your own belief system!

Everything that occurs in your life is interpreted BY YOU. You add the meaning, you add the emotional response, you add EVERYTHING. It is your thoughts that literally take the energy "data" and transpose it into your reality. What you consider "real" is nothing more than an agreement that you've made with yourself (and no doubt many others in some cases).

This is how our reality has been shaped. This is how we have learned what is possible, and what is impossible. We learned it from OTHER PEOPLE. The problem is, these other people (family and friends perhaps?) have their OWN limiting belief systems which they ALSO consider "real".
So human limitations spread like a virus, and we don't even realize what's happening.

As discouraging as this is, many of us ARE waking up. I personally feel it my sacred duty to shake people out of this "intellectual trance" that limits them and show them what is truly possible.

So what IS the difference between those who cruise through life in a seemingly perpetual state of bliss, with everything they want coming to them with no effort, and the rest of the population working at jobs they hate for the sake of doing the "responsible" thing, hoping that SOME DAY they can live the lives they hope for?

The difference is that these people know their purpose, know WHY they absolutely HAVE to fulfill that purpose, and commit themselves to never stopping until they realize their dream. They may or may not have thrown the accepted definition of "responsibility" out the window. The only thing that matters ultimately is that they now live lives they love, following their passions.

You see it is our PASSIONS in life that tell us precisely what we are to do. When we follow our passions, our life lights up. We give off incredibly powerful energy which attracts our desires to us. That means people, money, objects, careers...whatever we want that is in line with our purpose. The Universe WANTS to provide those things we want most. It is only our own limiting belief systems that stop fulfillment from occurring.

By: Bob Doyle

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The High Cost of Doing Nothing

Cost is sometimes a difficult term to define. Here, we are not simply discussing cost as it relates to selling price, but rather opportunity cost. The web site, "Mentors, Ventures and Plans" defines opportunity cost as "The loss of the next best alternative whenever a decision is made involving two or more options". "Investing in Options" defines it as "Choosing the best alternative means that you can't choose the next-best alternative. Opportunity cost is the next-best alternative that must be sacrificed in order to get something else you want. Opportunity cost can be thought of as the road not taken." Inactivity, or doing nothing, is usually the highest price paid and is often associated with great opportunity cost. Inaction is usually the worst decision one can make, made from a base of fear.


Many of us freeze when facing decisions. For some reason, decision making becomes complex, paralyzing and even painful for many people. It should not be this way. Making a decision is simply the act of choosing between alternatives. You must learn to weigh the implications of each possible decision and choose the outcome that is best for you and all others involved. For example, when your telephone bill comes due, you may choose to pay it or not. There are real obvious consequences for both actions. The situation becomes more complex however, when our human emotions enter the picture. For instance; you are offered a new job and must decide to leave your current position and move your family to a new location, hundreds of miles away..


What we often fail to realize, is that delaying important decisions or simply not making a decision at all, are actions that often impact us with the highest opportunity costs and worst case scenarios. Inactivity, or the lack of a decision, is actually a decision made, although one seldom made in our best interests. In this case, we unfortunately transfer over control of our lives to external forces and circumstances. We are now positioned to be at the mercy and decision-making of others. This is not your best scenario. There are often unusually high costs associated with doing nothing.


Decision making is actually a skill set that can be learned and refined. Like all skills, entering into a new area as a novice requires practice and application in order to improve. Keep in mind that you will indeed improve! Start small, with less important decisions involving less than crucial outcomes and gradually make more decisions on matters of greater importance. Soon, you will have few if any issues with making decisions. Learn to start small and work your way up, gradually extending your comfort zone in this area. A by-product of learning these new skills is that your confidence will surely improve as well.


Decision making need not be frightening. Think of it as a process that is your own, shedding any external pressure that others may be applying. Take your time, get your facts and choose the outcome that works best for you. Do not allow yourself to fall victim to the high cost of doing nothing.

By: Daniel Sitter

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The Power of Beauty..

Kita nggak bisa menyangkal kalau di dunia ini orang percaya bahwa kecantikan wanita punya kekuatan luar biasa. Their beauty is their power. Di antaranya, kecantikan bisa membuat seorang wanita percaya diri dan ‘perkasa’.

Cukup beralasan ya.. Coba kita ingat-ingat, dari kecil orang tua menyuruh kita, anak perempuannya supaya bersikap manis, berkata yang santun, dan berpenampilan manis. Jadi, tanpa disadari, kita seolah diwajibkan oleh ketentuan untuk menjadi manis, cantik, atraktif, anggun dan sejenisnya.

Tapi persepsi ini banyak juga dicela oleh sebagian wanita yang merasa jengah, kaumnya kok diperlakukan hanya sebagai obyek ketertarikan seksual lawan jenis. Pendapat yang sah memang, tapi kenyataannya, tetap, wanita secara naluriah mungkin ditakdirkan untuk menjadi manusia yang manis, dan dipuji karena daya tariknya. Itulah salah satu bahan dasar natural power seorang wanita.

Ada benarnya juga kalau dipikir-pikir. Di mana-mana, termasuk dalam masalah lowongan pekerjaan, lampu hijau lebih ditujukan kepada calon pegawai yang cantik, berpenampilan oke dan berkepribadian menarik. Soal promosi? Buat seorang wanita yang kriterianya seperti tadi, pasti lebih cepat naik jabatannya dibanding yang lain. Belum lagi di lingkungan sosial. Orang umumnya akan lebih suka rela mengulurkan bantuannya kepada sang wanita cantik.

Sekarang, berapa banyak rupiah yang sudah kita keluarkan buat kosmetik, pakaian dan ke salon? (Apalagi yang udah operasi plastik). Sebenarnya, buat apa sih semua itu? Supaya kita keliatan (lebih) cantik kan? Harus diakui, cantik punya poin bagus yang sangat menguntungkan.

Tapi, seperti mata pisau, kecantikan punya sisi lemah. Masyarakat sering punya asumsi perempuan ayu itu identik dengan sifat-sifat minor, nggak setia, nggak bisa jadi ibu yang baik, kemayu dan berani sama suami. Memang benar ada kan, wanita yang seperti itu? Ada. Banyak juga.. Kecantikan yang dimiliki seorang wanita, kalau nggak dibarengi kepribadian dan hati yang cantik juga, cuma akan jadi bumerang buat dirinya. Their beauty is their curse.

Jadi, tinggal kita sendiri yang memutuskan, akan dimanfaatkan untuk apa kecantikan yang kita miliki. Untuk membuktikan bahwa Our beauty is our power, atau membuktikan bahwa Our beauty is our curse ?

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